Feb
In Memory of our Friend Stillpink
Yesterday morning on Valentines Day, we lost a very dear, sweet, silly and fun loving friend as Stillpink Sandgrain passed away due to cancer.
Anyone who knew Pink knew how silly and funny and compassionate and crazy and warm hearted a person she was. Pink has been in Second Life since nearly the beginning and while she loved to traverse the grid and had many friends from all over inworld, she made it clear to me personally on the phone how much she loved the Shire community and all the wonderful people who make up our wonderful family of friends.
We will be dedicating the Entire upcoming Raglan Mardi Gras in her memory and Saturday will have a Memorial and dedication in her honor followed by a New Orleans Style Procession about the sims before honoring her memory in a way we feel she would have wanted us to, with music and stories and a celebration of her spirit.
Rest in Peace Pink, we love you and you will be missed.
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UPDATE: The Service for Stillpink will be held in the Heron Shire Forest at 12 pm Noon SLT. Please try and arrive 30 minutes early and if possible, please remove any extraneous scripted items from your virtual person such as radars, huds, mysti tool-esque items and the like. We ask this to help with lag as we expect there to be a lot of people and anything we can do to help is much appreciated.
This will be a New Orleans Style Procession in the spirit of the Raglan Shire Mardi Gras that starts Saturday and which is dedicated to Stillpink. We will begin the service with some music and spoken word over the stream in Pinks Honor, then we shall dedicate the memorial tree in her name before beginning the First Line procession from the memorial site on Heron Shire through the forest, onto the Wharf and on to Raglan Shire where we will end at the French Quarter where we will then launch into the Second Line which is a Joyous gathering with music and dancing, stories and rememberances as we celebrate Stillpinks spirit and usher in the Mardi Gras.
During the First Line procession please watch those in front of you. This is a Slow Procession which means we will be staggering our pace. We will be VERY SLOWLY moving from the memorial to the French quarter. It is a tradition to play very sad, somber music for the initial procession before arriving at the destination and where everything kicks into Second Line “party mode” to properly honor the recently departed.
Expect the usual Lag and other SL obstacles. There will be appropo Swag for the service.
Stillpink was a marvelous, creative, funny soul whose (usually) tiny pink leopard lit up anyplace she landed with vibrant fun and humor. One of the first Raglan tinies. I send huge hugs to Tea and Akay.
February 15th, 2010 at 2:51 pmRest in peace my friend. I shall forever treasure memories I can replicate with no-one else nor would I dare to. You were a unique and blessed soul and I feel equally blessed to have enjoyed your company and adventure.
February 15th, 2010 at 2:54 pmPink, I will never forget your beautiful personality and wonderful outlook on life. rest in peace xoxoxo
Tea, my dear friend…I can’t imagine what you must be going through but you know I’m here and I luffs you so much. hugs and more hugs for you and Akay
February 15th, 2010 at 2:55 pmMy most sincere condolences to Tea, to Akay and all those around them.
February 15th, 2010 at 2:55 pmI never met Pink, but will say a prayer for her. May she rest in peace.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:01 pmStillpink was one of the first tinies I encountered in Raglan and she was always happy to help and welcomed me into the community. Such a warm and happy leopard who never failed to brighten up the Shire. Huge snuggles to her family, she will be missed.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:04 pmPink was one of the very first Tinies I ever met. Her infectious warmth, humor, unbelievable patience, and zest for life were a tremendous boon to this little noob who kept losing her head (and assorted other limbs too). Rest in Peace, Pink. You are truly missed.
My condolences to Tea and Akay on your terrible loss. *HUGGGGs*
February 15th, 2010 at 3:09 pmI had a wonderful fun chat with Pink during Medieval Festival 2009 … had no idea what you were going through, Stillpink!
Rest in peace and you’ll always be a part of Raglan!
February 15th, 2010 at 3:10 pmI spoke to her as recently as 2 weeks ago; this comes as a real shock. I was not aware of her condition until the last few days. I wish I had more time to speak with her,a nd apologize for all of the times I may have been too busy or short with her on SL…. -_-
Goodbye, Stillpink, and thank you for all the good you have provided.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:14 pmI saw a bright new star tonight. I swear it smiled.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:15 pmFrom all of us at Luskwood, she will be missed.
She was one of the first people that became a regular for us and whenever she dropped by she always lifted everyone’s spirits and SL won’t be quite the same without her.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:15 pmBye Stills -
Fear no more the heat o’ the sun,
Nor the furious winter’s rages;
Thou thy worldly task hast done,
Home art gone, and ta’en thy wages;
And to Tea and Akay, and all who knew and loved her, my sincere condolences xx
February 15th, 2010 at 3:16 pmI remember Stillpink from Luskwood and how she’d bounce in from time to time full of joy, fun and happiness. She was one of the few people who’d been around from year dot and I always assumed she’d be around for a long time to come. I had no idea of what she was going through. I will miss your spark of life. Maybe we’ll meet again another place, another time.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:19 pmWhile not close friends with Stillpink I cherished the times we used to goof around in the vehicle sims of the Oak Grove and Balance area, now more than ever. She was a wonderful person and she will be missed in my heart.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:20 pmI used to see a lot of Stillpink back when we were both new, hanging out around Avalon. She was always fun to spend time with! Very sad to see her go
February 15th, 2010 at 3:23 pmTo all my tiny friends and family maybe this will help us all to life her chins and hearts. Pink will be surely missed.
I sit here watching as
February 15th, 2010 at 3:24 pmfriends and family pour
in
I look into those deep
beautiful eyes of yours
and start to ask why oh
why
Wiping my tears I listen
to my heart and hear
silent words spoken
here
I come here not to mourn
your death but to
celebrate your
life
You take with you on
your journey a part
of each and everyone of
us
In return we keep a
part of you within our
Hearts
Stills brought bright pink sparkles wherever she went, and when she left she always left some sparkles behind… I’ll be looking up for that pink sparkling star.
My deepest sympathy for all that knew and loved her.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:56 pmWhat a lovely memorial to a well-loved person.
February 15th, 2010 at 3:57 pmRest in peace, Stillpink. Many blessings to you and your family. You will be missed.
February 15th, 2010 at 4:07 pmI am at a loss for words, only tears and sadness. Pink you will be missed, Tea and Akay my deepest sympathy. ;(
February 15th, 2010 at 4:28 pmI will miss you my silly pink pal and keep safe, fond memories of the giggles we shared together. Two nuts always added up to more fun.
February 15th, 2010 at 4:46 pmI hope you find the strength you need to get through this sad time Tea. *soft hugs* and condolences.
Although I never knew you Stillpink, I can see that you left in your wave a lot of smiles and a lot of happiness. There will be a big empty spot in all our hearts and in Raglan at your passing, we will never let your spirit die.
February 15th, 2010 at 4:49 pmRest easy Stillpink.
My condolences to Tea and to Akay.
Still, words cannot begin to convey how very sad I am at the loss of such a wonderfully funny, cheerful person behind a charming and friendly pink tiger. Still made me feel welcome when I 1st joined the raglan family and that welcome extended to her daughter Tea. All my love and heart go out to all of you for we have lost a true friend and a wonderful person.
February 15th, 2010 at 5:09 pmThe last few times I saw Pink, she was bouncing around crazily and nomming stuff. She made me feel so happy and good every time. She was wonderful in so many ways and loved to have a crazy and fun time.
I really will miss her and her crazy fun ways. And my deepest condolences to Tea and Akay. You both also make Raglan an amazingly great place to be in. Knowing how many people here were touched by Pink shows me just how close most of us are and how special a place Raglan really is. I’m really glad Pink was with us and I hope that we gave her lots to smile about and riverdance to in her last few moments.
February 15th, 2010 at 6:33 pmStillpink, I never really got to know you, but I can see from those who did, the warmth you brought to their hearts, and how dearly you will be missed. You are in my prayers.
Tea and Akay, I don’t think we’ve ever met, but my heart goes out to you a this time.
February 15th, 2010 at 7:31 pmStillpink Sandgrain was a tiny I met in Raglan Shire. She was always so happy, especially at Medieval Festival, hopping and dancing *giggles*. Now she’s gone? Nuh-uh. Such a void is left where she left her tiny footprints *whimpers*. We wuvs you, Stillpink, and I’ll leave you on my friends list no matter what ’cause you always will be my friend. Aloha!!
February 15th, 2010 at 7:36 pmI remember playing with Stillpink in the Raglan “Silly Cube” (sandbox), just building things and chatting away. I remember one time there, exploring a little house for Tinies she’d just made that was so cute and tidy and “just right.”
Goodbye sweet spirit, fly high.
February 15th, 2010 at 7:43 pmI is so sad. I have tears. I did not know Pink well but I know she was a happy and loving tiny who cared about us all and now she is playing with the tinys in heaven and forever happy and with all the waffles she could ever want. My heart breaks for the loss of such a nice tiny but our loss is heavens gain. You will live on in our hearts Stillpink.
February 15th, 2010 at 7:48 pmI really don’t have the words to express my feelings here. As others have already said, Stills was so incredibly full of life. So amazing, so fun to be around all the time. I will always cherish my memories of this tiny pink tiger.
February 15th, 2010 at 8:42 pmTo Tea and Akay, my heart goes out to you. If there’s anything we can do, all you have to do is ask.
My fondest memories of Stillpink were when she was with Adeptus Minor. God was she vicious and always ready to go. I didn’t even really know that Tea was her daughter– would explain why they both signed up together!
Rest in peace soldier…
February 15th, 2010 at 10:47 pmI miss her so much! Oh my god. I feel horrible. Just horrible. I mean at first I was just dazed she was gone. I still am.
I woke up on valentines day feeling weird and thats why. I met her in Activeworlds when I was a tourist. She was there for most of my growing up. I met back in my second day of secondlife, where I met Tea.
God, May you rest in peace, still. I loved you as my own mother! Same with Tea, even thought we rarely hung out, as my own sister. *hug hug*
February 15th, 2010 at 11:10 pmHilariously funny, cheerful, creative, helpful, and so much more. One of the most courageous people I have ever known. I wish I had better words. Tea and Akay you have my deepest sympathy and my prayers.
February 16th, 2010 at 3:54 amI met Stillpink [as Lady Stillpink/"STILLpink"] in Active Worlds around 2003 or earlier. She pretty much pushed me into Second Life, and was a great friend.
February 16th, 2010 at 4:10 amI’m really sorry to hear this sad news and feel for you guys. My thoughts are with her family and friends in RL & SL
February 16th, 2010 at 4:46 amXerxes and I first found Stillpink back in 2006 near Morris sandbox where she was racing around in a pink car, all by herself, wearing a tiny Elvis av, shouting “Tha-you-very-much”. She stopped and spoke to us and we were blown away by her warmth, and energy and knew we’d met someone special. We spoke about that encounter many times after that and often said we wished we could meet her again. Then, before Raglan was born, we found her again at the old Extrovirtual and felt so happy she remembered us after such a long time. Then came Raglan Shire. Stills, Tea and Akay would visit the barn and light the place up and I would smile for days. She always made me feel proud of my work but I know she praised everyone else too. She was helpful, caring, generous and encouraging to everyone but especially to noobs. I feel like there’s a big hole in Second Life now she’s gone. I’m so sorry Tea and Akay. Goodbye pink angel.
February 16th, 2010 at 5:42 amA huge hit to our tiny community; the loss of one so loved.
February 16th, 2010 at 5:59 amStillpink is a fabulous example of what everyone should strive to be. I don’t remember the first time I met Stillpink, but I do remember feeling like we were friends immediately. She was truly a special person. She will be sorely missed. My condolences to Tea and Akay.
If Stills had to leave this world it is somewhat appropriate that it was a day dedicated to the color PINK (and red).
February 16th, 2010 at 6:05 amFor Pinky
I built a tiny garden
In a corner of my heart
I kept it just for lovely things
And bade all else depart
And ever was there music
And flowers Blossomed Fair;
And never was it perfect
Until you entered there.
with love
February 16th, 2010 at 7:11 amBunny
I really can’t find the words..
RIP Stills, you will be greatly missed!
To Tea and Akay: Please accept my condolences. I feel with you in this time of sorrow.
/JoJo
February 16th, 2010 at 7:40 amThere is not anything i can add here. I shall miss Stillpink, i often chatted to her at events, and always enjoyed her mayhem, and that she appreciated my own!
I know raglan needs a big celebration to bring the bright sparkliness back up to normal again after her loss.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:29 amSuch heartbreaking news! I can only offer huggles of comfort to the family and friends she left behind.
February 16th, 2010 at 10:26 amWho wouldn’t smile at the sight of a tiny pink leopard? For those smiles alone, I thank you Stillpink. Thank you for your humor and goofiness. You will be missed.
My sincere condolences to Tea and Akay. Much love to you both.
February 16th, 2010 at 10:37 amI didn’t know Stillpink, but she sounds like a wonderful person.
Let’s all wear pink in her memory!
February 16th, 2010 at 2:48 pmWhen tinies cry tiny angels sing - for having Pink home again.
You were fun and generous Pink - we look forward to the day you will bid us welcome in your heavenly Shire.
Nin and Korben
February 16th, 2010 at 2:59 pmHamlet Au, of New World Notes, has very kindly posted a blog entry about Stills and our plans to celebrate her.
http://nwn.blogs.com/nwn/2010/02/stillpink-sandgrain.html
February 16th, 2010 at 3:20 pmStillpink you traveled such a long road and reading the prior posts I see you never walked it alone. Your humor, your glee and your love was felt by all. It may be somewhat fitting that a day devoted to love is the day you were called home - reminding us all exactly what love feels like when it slips to the other side and waits for us again.
To Tea - there are no words. I can only express my deepest sympathy to you and your family and hope that you find comfort in the friends you have around you for time to come.
February 16th, 2010 at 3:27 pmSecond Life will never forget you.
You were genuine SL royalty.
February 16th, 2010 at 4:12 pmI am deeply saddened to hear of Miss Pink’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends.
Fogwoman Gray
February 16th, 2010 at 4:27 pmStillpink bought me my first avatar, and although we didn’t hang out a whole lot, I realise now when we did hang out they were some of my favroute moments in SL.
February 16th, 2010 at 5:32 pmI was at a RL bar with my gf and a cancer survivor and when my gf mentioned Stillpink’s passing I was struck at how much SL residents can affect us in RL. My thoughts are with Tea and Akay.
-Stimpy
I remember seeing Stillpink joyfully dancing at a Raglanshire event. I will miss her. Our Raglanshire Family will never be quite the same without her presence. May all those who hold her close in thier take comfort in the loving thoughts shared here.
Huggles, nite-nite Stillpink
February 16th, 2010 at 6:35 pmOn Alamak chat tonite we were told that Stillpink passed on…
I do not know if this is the same Stillpink I met in 1996 on Alamak, back when I was in college and I used the chat to deal with life’s turmoil. She was one of the first people I met online that saw through my rowdy behavior and took me for who I actually was. From that point forth, it was always a pleasant site to see Miss Pink online in Think_Cafe, chatting away, turning the entire room into her own personal pinky playground.
She was smart and witty and could comeback at someone without being insulting and yet still be extremely funny. From 1996 to 2000 or so she was a constant presence on Alamak chat, and it was refreshing to have her around. Over the last few years especially, I saw her less and less. Looks like she opened up another world to her incredibly unique personality, I am so glad to see that because I have missed her so much.
Over the last year I saw her maybe 3 times in Think_Cafe, she would always leave a message if myself or others were not around, and it was always like “YAHHHH” when you’d log in and find she had been there. I guess I’ve never lost a friend online before, and this is so unfortunate because I had always meant to get to know her better and never did.
Can someone who is from her family or a friend who knows her in real life please contact me at cybermystpage @ yahoo dot com? (don’t know if this allows email addresses). There are a bunch of us at Alamak that really really want to know if this is the same Stillpink and want to express our condolences if so…
She was such an amazing person and while part of me is hoping and praying this is not one in the same, another part of me reads the rest of these comments and knows this has to be her
February 16th, 2010 at 7:55 pmRest in Peace Mother….
I shall miss you, we all miss you.
I shall treasure the fun time you spend with us all and how you keep making me smile everyday!
We all love you forever with our soul and hearts.
Find happiness and peace Mother Pink…
February 16th, 2010 at 8:06 pmThank you raglanshire.com for recognizing my mothers passing, on to a virtual life, free from lag.
February 16th, 2010 at 9:37 pmI love you all for your support and kindness. Pink would love to see how many she did touch.
Peace and luv
Tea
Stillpink will always be remembered, she was always so friendly and such a nice lady…. Be at peace!
February 16th, 2010 at 9:58 pmI don’t know what to say, which is unusual for me.
I knew her from the ThinkCafe from back in the 90s.
My thoughts and best wishes are with her family.
It’s good to look back and just smile.
February 16th, 2010 at 10:51 pmBaruch Dayan ha’Emet — Blessed be the One who Judges in Truth.
Like many in Luskwood, I had no idea that Pink was even sick… and now this. I am sitting here crying, even though I barely knew her, remembering all the times she’d pop into Lusk to wander about spreading smiles and lunacy. I took her for granted, just another friendly face on the Platform… one I’ll never see again, now.
Let us honor Pink the way she would have wanted us to honor her: by holding those we care about ever closer, and not taking them for granted, ever.
Goodbye, Pink. Jump high, smile big, and watch over us until we can join you.
Oseh shalom bim’romav, hu ya’aseh shalom aleinu v’al’kol Yisroayl, vi’mru Amen — May the Author of Peace send peace to all who mourn, and comfort the bereaved among us, and let us say, Amen.
February 17th, 2010 at 6:08 amI think Stillpink was the second person I ever met in SL back when I first joined in 2004. Back then, I used to hang out in the sandbox areas a lot and I think we first met there when I was building something. Of course, she immediately offered to help. She was always very friendly and eager to say “hi”. Stillpink was an overall fun person to be around and would brighten any area both figuratively and literally. I’m sorry to hear of her passing. She will be missed.
February 17th, 2010 at 7:46 amStillpink was one of the first people I ever met in Second Life way back in ‘05… it seems like just yesterday. A random newbie walking onto the platform with no idea what he was doing… and there she was. Stillpink was always a great friend to me. Like many others, I had no clue that she was even sick… it absolutely crushes me that she has passed. I will always remember her kind words, and cheerful demeanor. May the Lord above watch over you, Stillpink. We shall never forget you.
February 17th, 2010 at 10:53 amStillpink came to my first Raglan Shire class in a mass of pink sparkles & joy; nothing went right on her build, but she giggled all the way through and came to the next class and the next… After the third class we hung out for a few, being silly & trading silly stories. Then and every times I saw her, her love of life and vivacity radiated … as it still does … in our hearts & our memories of one of life’s truly special people.
February 17th, 2010 at 12:29 pmWell…It’s been great having SL and also a wonderful community like Raglan as an meeting place for a mother,daughter and a son-in law to get together and bond in a way that no other family could… Break on Thru Mama Stillpink… maybe well see yas in world ..;p]
February 17th, 2010 at 1:54 pmhastlavistababy
Akay
My condolences to Stillpinks family. Stillpink was fun to be silly with. Miss ya Pink!
February 17th, 2010 at 3:02 pmThank you Stillpink for your remarkable spirit. I will never forget you.
February 17th, 2010 at 4:23 pmBalance will miss the Pink Lady. Of all that knew her, none could deny that she had a kind word, and much joy to anyone she came across.
February 18th, 2010 at 12:08 amTill next we meet again, Pinkie.
My condolences to Tea and Akay. I am so sorry to hear this. Huggles to you.
February 18th, 2010 at 1:33 amFor someone I never met in the flesh, she has manage to influence me personaly over the last 5+ years
Even though I have not been active in the SL community for almost 2 years now, I still count her as a dear freind.
I will never forget you Stillpink, nor your wonderful family and freinds whom we had many an adventure with, I just hope they have gypsy caravan camps and 80s partys wherever you may be.
Craig Solzhenitsyn / Kornation Bommerang / Kevin.
February 18th, 2010 at 10:32 amwe only met a couple of times in my time in SL…Stills was first person to say hello to me when I showed up in my new Tiny Bear av at Raglan..and she said it was such nice work…I was a noob and she was being nice…but she made me feel welcome and I decided to make Raglan my favorite place to be.. Thank you StillPink..will miss you Hugs
February 18th, 2010 at 12:41 pm2010 Year of the Tiger…Pink ones just like you…xoxo
February 18th, 2010 at 12:44 pmStills, I will forever miss the little things. Yelling for you from one side of the sim then laughing because you magically appeared next to me. I will miss crashing into things with you and flying through the sim. Most of all, I will miss you just being you.
Thank you for all the wonderful memories, thank you for all the times you made me laugh but finally, thank you for being my friend.
Rest in Peace sweetheart, you will be forever missed and loved.
My thoughts and prayers go out to Tea, Akay and the rest of the family.
Hippo Hugs -Lani
February 18th, 2010 at 3:29 pmStillpink, you’re an amazing individual and you’ve influenced the lives of the people around you in such positive ways. You will be missed.
February 18th, 2010 at 4:17 pmI didn’t know her but from what I read she was a wonderful person. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends…
February 18th, 2010 at 5:32 pmRest in Peace Stillpink
Stillpink, i feel you with us and holding us and watching us. i know that you will always be a part of us, i miss you. you’ve done so much to make other people happy and find a good spirit, and you bring a light to every heart. pain is gone for you now, and we want to hold close everything you’ve brought to us. my sincere condolences to tea and akay, and our thanks to the universe for the light that we all hold now.
February 19th, 2010 at 2:01 amI don´t know what to say. Stillpink was one of the first Tinies we met at the shires and she made us feel heartly welcome. Rest in peace Still, we will never forget you! Our condolences to tea and akay and so many warm hugs!
February 19th, 2010 at 9:38 amStills, I will miss you forever. I think of you every time I see the color pink, I keep expecting a little leopard in a tutu to jump out at me.
You always had kind words and knew how to bring joy to those around you. Whenever you were around I felt happy and cared about, only you could do that.
Thank you so much for the time you spent with me, and even playing along as one of my girlfriends, for that you will always be my favorite tiny.
We’ve lost a dear friend, but the big Shire in the sky gained the most beloved tiny whom ever lived.
Love Always,
February 19th, 2010 at 12:23 pmYour Beaver
For more information on the New Orleans Jazz Memorial we will be doing for Stillpink at noon on Sat. Feb 20, 2010, you can read a bit about the tradition at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jazz_funeral
February 19th, 2010 at 12:41 pmEulogy for a Friend
Friendship is love.
Love is both Joy and Pain.
We hope that over the course of any friendship the joy outweighs the pain.
If we’re lucky this happens many times over.
This has been my experience with the woman who I fondly called Stills.
A joyful and free spirit. Light and beaming every single moment I have ever observed.
Her aspect in Second Life was everything I am not. She was my foil and her example encouraged me to emerge from my naturally melancholic state.
I am in awe of her positivity and resilience.
I am shamed by her happiness and her courage.
Her unbridled enthusiasm in planning her trip to France and her following through in the face of major health difficulties and having such a hugely enjoyable time despite all this brings a smile to my face and hope to my heart.
She was also unswervingly devoted to her family. Her daughter Tea featured in absolutely every conversation I ever had with her and we would most often end up parked in Tea’s shop on Heron Shire sharing our time with both Tea and her husband Akay.
It was my great privilege to speak on the telephone with Stills before she left us. Despite sounding tired and somewhat vexed she retained her generous spirit. She expressed appreciation for the call and though weary, took the time to chat with me about chocolate milk and the whites of hard-boiled egg. We both agreed that the whites are the only good bits a boiled egg has to offer.
Now that she is gone I am left bereft and the pain in my friendship and love of Stills comes to the fore. Although I never met her face-to-face I feel great loss. I am destroyed.
February 19th, 2010 at 1:04 pmMy heartfelt sympathy goes out to both Tea and Akay, (who must are assuredly hit harder than any of us here) and to everyone who this great lady had touched here in our little world.
She was a fun, bright human being who will be sorely missed.
February 19th, 2010 at 6:16 pmStillpink, you were a kind and caring soul. You helped those who needed it and came to them in their time of need. You were a great tiny and an even greater friend. You are dearly missed.
February 19th, 2010 at 9:44 pmSadly I never got to know Stillpink very well, but I do remember the fun loving pink leopard I met on one of my first visits to Raglan Shire.
Stillpink, you will never be forgotten.
Ren
February 20th, 2010 at 10:22 amI’m gonna miss her, she always brought happiness and joy to us in Balance… She will be missed… My heart goes out to all her RL and SL family and friends…
February 20th, 2010 at 10:49 amI, like fraNk and Yorkie, knew Pinkie from the Think Cafe in Alamak chat back in the day…she and I would play a game where we would pull each other into one room after the other…silly? I suppose so, but it was fun and Pinkie made me laugh and I know I also made her laugh…it’s amazing how vivid she remains in my memory…she will be sorely missed, but will always be remembered.
February 21st, 2010 at 8:24 amI am Stillpink’s RL sister. I can recall several years ago when she first mentioned SL to me. I really had no idea about the breadth and depth of the community and her involvement with it. I only just recently joined SL to participate in some meetings and Stillpink and Tea both helped me get started. Alas, I only took time for those meetings and never really spent time with my sister in world. I am touched by the kind words you have all shared and love you all for keeping Tea, Akay, myself, and my parents in your prayers. Thanks Tea for sharing this with me.
February 22nd, 2010 at 9:25 amVery sad news, just heard, RIP sweet Stillpink and sparkle forever in everyone’s memories. It is very moving reading folk’s comments sorry I’m not in world so much these days to join in with the community - what a great bunch you all are. Condolences to all her friends and especially her family. P x
February 22nd, 2010 at 3:03 pmI met Stilly in Alamak long long ago in the Think Cafe. She was always kind to me and could hold a wonderful conversation, as well as long drawn out debate without getting anyones feathers in a ruffle.
She is one of the old regs I always looked for or asked for in recent years after the Think Cafe ceased to exist, hoping to be able to talk to her again.
I am sad for her family, her friends and those of us who knew her, but I am so happy that I had the chance to meet her and there was such a person known as StillPink.
Klickatat
February 22nd, 2010 at 8:46 pmLike many of you, I met stillpink at Alamak in the ThinkCafe.
It has been more than ten years, but some people, even if you never met them in real life, leaves an impression in your heart and soul. I will remember laughs, caring conversations and heated debates.
To everyone; I’m very sorry for your loss.
Only yesterday, I learnt that Winterhawk (of alamak) passed away too.
When I lost MasterD, Darren, my world fell apart, I lost contact with alot of people. If anyone wants it, my email is myazalea@hotmail.com
LittleC /Carolina
February 24th, 2010 at 3:52 pmMy name is Eva, my family calls me E.D. and Stillpink is my sister in law. These beautiful testimonies are like a healing balm on a deep and open sore. You all knew my sister in law better than I did and for that I will always feel great loss. Stillpink was just as wonderful in real life as she was in Ragland Shire. I am soooo happy that she had all of you and that she poured that beautiful sweet joyful caring spirit on to you and you gave back so much to her life. ..(By the way she was brilliant ) Thank you, reading your statements has been such a gift.
February 26th, 2010 at 6:52 ame.d.
Such sadness hits my heart. I am deeply touched and saddened by the loss of such a wonderful tiny.
May her memory and spirit remain with us forever.
Krull (Kitty) Quar
February 26th, 2010 at 8:10 pmIt took me a while to write this. I was very unfortunately very tied up with about a million things both personally and on SL… and I sadly did not hear about Stillpink’s passing until the memorial was already over.
I feel a need to share this with the few people who can perhaps understand. Of my RL family and friends, there are maybe four who could understand this.
All my life, death has not really affected me. I always viewed it as just a part of our path. Even at my parent’s death I wasn’t sad, because we had a mutual understanding: we would meet again. To me, death has always been a temporary thing… like having family clear across the country that you seldom see, but still care about. I’ve never really viewed death as an issue, never worried about it, even when it comes to consideration that some day I myself will face such. Forgive my waxing religious, but Paul said, “Death, where is thy sting?” He knew death is not the end, but rather the beginning. So I guess I kind of viewed it as Paul did. Just another rotten thing that happens, then it gets better. No problem.
But this time was different. I don’t really know why. Perhaps it’s because it came out of nowhere. One day Stillpink was there. The next, she was gone. I didn’t know she was ill. She kept it from most of her friends, not wishing to burden us with her situation. She didn’t want to be treated special. She just wanted to enjoy her remaining days as she’d come to love them. The last I remember of Stillpink was a very short time ago. She was bright, cheerful, and dancing with the rest of us. Then she wasn’t.
I never knew her personally. I have no idea where she lived or anything about her “real” life. All that I know is that she was regularly gracious, gentle, happy and cheerful. Stillpink had a wonderful sense of humor and reacted to such in ways that only “Tinies” can react… with total abandon and insanity. From Riverdancing to showing off her latest garment acquisitions– always pink — Stillpink was a lovely person.
I have no idea what she looked like in real life. I don’t care. I don’t know her RL interests, family ties. I don’t know for a certainty who she really was, because no one comes across in VR worlds as they really are. We all put on a persona, a facade that we present to others. But I imagine in her case, her VR personality wasn’t all that different from her real one. It’s hard to fake that kind of cheerfulness and charm.
Stillpink passed unexpectedly, without a word except to her closest loved ones– who by her wishes kept her condition secret from everyone else. Her passing was a shock to the community who knew her. To my great regret I missed her Raglan memorial. I was not aware she’d passed. I was busy and tied up as we so often get. But from what I heard, more than sixty tinies marched along a path of pink pentunia petals to the gathering area. I’m told the live-voice remembrance conducted by Zayn was in no way “artificial”. One cannot hide being choked up over a live microphone. Everyone knew how he felt. Artificial representation or not, caricature or not, this was the loss of a real person, a kindred spirit, someone we had come to love.
I tend to be aloof. I never told Stillpink how much I enjoyed her portrayal of that tiny tiger cub. We so much take people for granted. We just quietly appreciate them, seldom saying so out loud. We too often fail to say what is on our minds. In truth, I didn’t even really know how much I’d come to care for Still. But when I heard she had passed, I found out. Because when I heard that she was gone, for the first time in my life, at great surprise to me, something that didn’t even happen for my own parents… for the loss of my special friend that I hadn’t even realized until that moment was a special friend… I wept most sadly.
There are few I could confide in about this, few that might understand. Thank you for letting me share this with you.
I miss Stillpink Sandgrain… and whoever it was behind her. I will continue to miss her for quite some time…. until we meet again.
March 2nd, 2010 at 4:52 pmOops,forgive. I guess he was a leopard, not a tiger. It doesn’t matter. I didn’t judge her by her spots. Tiger, leopard, lion, hippo, possum… it was Stillpink I cared about. Her loss has made me realize how very much I care about so many of the rest of you.
March 2nd, 2010 at 4:58 pmI didn’t know her as Stillpink but I’ve known her since we were 16 and for the 40+ years since then. 40 years ago we went to the Atlanta Pop Festival; she was in my wedding and at my father’s funeral in 1977. Recently we went to our 40th HS reunion, the Grand Canyon and Paris together. She was living with me for the last 2 years while she received her treatment but I didn’t know about this life she lived with all of you. However, like E.D., the words I’ve just read have given me a measure of peace I hadn’t realized I needed. Thank you all.
March 9th, 2010 at 12:29 pmI’m totally blown away, but not amazed, at the fellowship that Stillpink (who in RL was my first serious girlfriend) found on SL. It’s a reminder that love is the most pervasive power in the universe, finding its way into every crevice of reality. But then, Stillpink was a kind of magnet for love, so it’s not surprising that it would find her, even in a virtual world.
April 19th, 2010 at 8:40 pmI met Stillpink at Alamak in ‘96. I found her an annoying, brittle, and (seemingly) man-hating harpy.
I could never have a straight conversation with her. She’d always bait and switch and pretend to misunderstand. I couldn’t figure her out. That said, I’m saddened to hear of her passing and have no hard feelings. Rest in the velvet arms of Eternity, Stillpink. Be happy forever.
W
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